Heartaches anonymous
Dear Heartaches,
Before I get to my question, I’m just going to put it out there that I’m no prude: I’ve dated men, I’ve dated women, and I consider myself a sexually and romantically free spirit.
With that said, this summer has dealt up some interesting romantic prospects I’m not sure I know how to handle.
Specifically, I’ve had a couple —a man and a woman who have been dating for some time now—pursue me as a third-party to join in their summer lovin’.
Now, part of me is flattered, right? This could be a great experience. But another part of me is wondering if getting involved in a non-monogamous/monogamous relationship is really such a bright idea. Is three always a crowd? How should I go about this one?
—The Third Party
Dear Third Party,
Basking in the beauty of being a free spirit in a city that embraces it is pretty much the authentic Montreal experience.
Summers here provide the perfect setting for new love, accumulating notches on bed posts, and general debauchery, so my knee-jerk response would be YES, go for it!
Judging by the description of your sexual inclinations, you’ve been to a lot of places and that’d be your general response also, but do you really wanna go there? If your gut feeling says no, maybe you should get in on the real motive of their invitation to a ménage à trois.
Is this couple going through a mid-relationship crisis and using you as their flint for a new spark? Are you going to turn into their therapist when all you’ve signed up for is a transient tryst and maybe a game of naked twister? Maybe they’re creepy axe murders looking to expand their skin collection. Or maybe they’re just looking for some summer lovin’ just like you. All I’m saying is watch your own ass before getting some ass, because you don’t really want your story to end up being a ‘based-on-a-true-story’ horror flick.
The Link Volume 31 Issue 01